Monday, 29 September 2014

The Changing Times

To the pathetic times that have been creeping in since time immemorial in the land of not one but multiple races called India. Irony, as to what the so called orthodox people claim the youth of this nation to be falling prey of: western culture is rather a land of people who are utterly confused about their tradition, caught in the cobweb of hollow customs without meaningful explanations. 

Dating back to the oldest times, we have heard this over and again, India is the place where Kama sutra was first written, women were respected, and sex was not such an eyebrow raising issue. So what has changed now, why rapes, atrocities, indiscrimination against the idol figure called women, have crept in? Some may claim the advent of the British colonial rule. As the British officers back in the time ‘introduced ‘raping the Indian girls, prostitution et cetera. Some texts bear testimony to the fact or myth (whatever one may prefer to refer it as) that India wasn't always so orthodox, in the olden times Indian women were allowed to indulge in polyandry, had the freedom to wear what now-a-days people might irresponsibly refer to as exposing; contrary to what the women in Europe were forced to clad in body hugging, suffocating corsets.

So we can go on arguing this futile argument about the actual tradition of our country, and it’s not about being like the West, it’s about getting back to our own roots, what India used to be some millennium before. We need to get over this sophism and we need to face the fact, every culture goes through a series of weathering, changes are ushered in, some good, some bad. There’s really no point playing the blame game. The million dollar question is why we don’t we feel safe in our own country? Why the way a girl dresses up has become such a contentious issue? Why going out late at night especially for a girl is a matter of concern? The list of questions doesn't end here I can pose many more questions pertaining to the problems of being a girl. Is being the possessor of the X-chromosome such a crime? See I tried restricting my self and there shot another question mark.

By all accounts we will reach at one misused, abused, banal answer: the girl needs to be married and her virginity must remain intact before that. It is an appalling fact that most of the people if asked will converge to this filthy, unreasonable explanation. It leaves me aghast when I see a woman displaying indiscriminate behavior toward another woman, which is pretty much a scene in many houses in India. For instance, the mother or the grandmother or the aunts supporting the boy for any of his faults over the girl, or the mother-in-law’s ruthless behavior towards her daughter in law, and so on and so forth. And moving on to the rape scene, it’s no more about safeguarding ourselves from the strangers, rather, many of the rapes happen by members within the family itself, with the burgeoning news of fathers and brothers being involved in sexual assaults. And yet another question is who all do we need to safeguard ourselves from. The answer doesn't lie with the government or the police or the law and order, it lies within us.

What we need to have is a change in mentality. Even in the times of growth and development people are caught in this delusional idea that only a son can raise a family, only  sons can carry forward the generation. The boy of the family must be fed well, given a better education over the daughter. But most importantly the boys must be taught to respect (if not worship) a girl. The families posing to be extravagantly religious, idol worshiping female goddesses should first teach their sons to be respectful to the girls. It’s all in the up bringing and how the society perceives women. Girls are not to be taken for granted, they are not weak, they are the source of life on earth, and a woman needs to empathize with other woman. They are not to be used as a commodity.

The recent mass insurrection against the gang rape of the brave-heart is what the nation requires. But as we know the public memory is weak, I hope that this voice against injustice doesn’t disappear in the banality. Although I pray that there is never any precedence that may give rise to another call for justice. We can teach our brothers, sons, husbands to act human in the real sense and know the importance of respecting the fellow girls, along with a complete assurance from the government and the law to take care of us. This issue requires a holistic approach at every level. And the least we can expect is the unwarranted comments from the uneducated politicians regarding preventing rapes. Because rape is not a disease that the victim suffers from, it’s a malaise of the mind of the rapist.

And so it’s not about following any particular culture. India is facing what I may prefer to call a phase of adolescence. We are standing at the confluence of the different generations trying to prove their ideals right. We need to go with the flow, accept what’s good, discard what’s not, because this isn't a land that belongs to one culture, race or ideal, it belongs to all those numerous civilizations that have intermingled to give it, its characteristic name, the land of diversity. Hence one cannot blame the way of living of a person for the rampant crimes, thereby completely nullifying the fault of the criminals and in turn vindicating the victims; this in context to the claim that wearing short clothes puts girls in trouble, or eating “Chowmein” causes men to rape or when Didi (Mamta Banerjee) said and I quote “Rapes happen because girls and boys talk frankly”. It is outrageously irresponsible on part of the politicians to bring in stupid rules to curb the so called drift towards the west and it is lame on part of us, the youth to try to become something we are not. This sounds easy to say and difficult to implement, but all we need is a slight change in the mind set, and things might not seem so convoluted then. Just give it a thought.



  1. It seems you've arrived with a bang!!

    The whole article seems to capture the grip of the matter in a concise yet assertive and determinant way. The introduction gives way to the body which chimes its way lucidly into the conclusion.

    Regarding the emphasis on matter paragraphs : Personally love the historical input design here.

    India's adolescence is indeed in its prime and what we are witnessing is somewhat of what has already happened in the west a couple of centuries back.

    The key here is "knowing who you are" and that is where the historical panorama of our vivid nation comes into play... the Kamasutra or the developed amenities of the days of old.

    If I indulge in a bit of my own mathematical way of interpreting phenomenon... I believe a graph comes into being....a sinusoidal graph.... the depths defining the worst of times and the maximas defining the best....

    And to be very clear there are innumerable variables with a probability quotient of their own playing their part in this scenario. Our graph is still in a phase where the second maxima is yet to occur while the developed countries include those which are witnessing their first or second maxima to the most.

    This growth and decline process is a cycle and we need to realise it ... to handle it better.... As simple as that...

    An excellent article my friend.

  2. Thank you Rahul, for not only reading it but also presenting an impressive view point.